Complaining vs. Creating
The Power of Our Words
I’ve always been a lover of words — curling up with a book whenever I could.
I’m often reading ten at once (maybe not the most efficient, but that’s okay 🙂).
I’ve always sensed there was power in the word. After all, in the beginning was The Word.
But only in the last five years have I come to understand what that means — not as philosophy, but as lived experience.
From Words of Judgment to Words of Creation
My former self — hardworking, responsible, always striving — often used words to complain: about my colleagues and leadership, about what my husband or kids weren’t doing, about others, and about myself.
I didn’t realize that every time I spoke words of criticism or lack, I was reinforcing that same energy.
But words matter.
Those words created a state of depletion and dis-ease. I found myself asking:
Why am I always dissatisfied?
Why doesn’t my relationship feel the way I imagined it would?
Why does something always feel missing?
In The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz writes, “Be impeccable with your word.” It took me years to understand this wasn’t just about honesty — it was about alignment. The words I was speaking — inwardly and outwardly — were creating my reality.
They call it spelling because words cast spells.
The Mirror of Judgment
When I began to see how judgment mirrored back to me, everything started to shift.
Jesus said, “Judge not, lest ye be judged.” When judgment surrounded me, I saw it as a mirror, showing me where I needed to soften.
Through Kundalini Yoga, the power of mantra, and spiritual study, my inner language began to change. My words became softer, kinder, and more prayerful.
Slowly, words that once depleted me began to heal me.
The Science of Word Power
More and more, science is catching up to what ancient wisdom has always known — that our words shape our world.
Neuroscientists have found that language doesn’t just describe reality; it creates it. The words we use trigger emotional responses and neural pathways that either expand or contract our sense of possibility. Kundalini yoga supports this expansion!
When we speak with fear, criticism, or limitation, we reinforce those states within ourselves — the self-fulfilling prophecies we more easily can identify in others. But when we speak with compassion, gratitude, and creative intent, we rewire the brain toward trust, connection, and peace.
This is why ancient practices like prayer, affirmation, and mantra hold such transformative power — they’re not just spiritual; they’re scientific.
They are the energetic language through which we reprogram our inner reality.
Practicing Creation
Now, when I catch myself wanting to complain, I pause and ask:
What can I create instead?
Can I create understanding?
Can I create connection?
Can I create beauty through my words?
Each choice becomes an act of conscious creation.
If you’ve never explored mantra or mindful speech, start small.
Repeat Sat Nam (“truth is my name”) during 3 minutes of meditation, inhaling Sat, exhaling Nam. Or when you notice judgment, replace it with a thought of kindness or a simple prayer.
Reflection Practice
Try this today:
Notice your words — both spoken and unspoken.
When you catch yourself complaining, pause.
Ask yourself:
What am I creating right now with this energy?
Then consciously choose to create something new: gratitude, curiosity, understanding.
Your words will begin to build the world you wish to live in.
✨ Words are your superpower.
What are you creating with yours?
